What if I told you that it’s okay to flirt outside your relationship? In fact, not only is it okay, but it’s great for you! You should do it… every day, every minute, every second you’re away from your partner! Okay, woah there now, let’s not get carried away here. I’m not trying to tear any relationships apart here. I’m the biggest romantic I know, who can spend hours reading the greatest love quotes found on our Pinterest (pinterest.com/womenandhealth1) or imagining the moment at the airport of how I will finally reunite with my long-distance love. In fact, science can back me up on the fact that flirting is good for you (who can argue with empirically derived, scientific knowledge?).
Science tell us that there are three main health benefits that men and women can garner from flirting (whether they are in a committed relationship or not). It should also be mentioned that flirting can (and should!) be achieved between two partners within the relationship, no matter how long they have been together.
Number one: flirting helps build confidence and self-esteem. When someone has been in a relationship long enough, it’s bound to happen that the bubbly-fizzy feeling goes away and relaxed contentment. A cheeky bit of banter can help you feel more attractive and confident, which can benefit other parts of your life, such as building up enough confidence to go for that promotion you’ve been itching to get. Don’t forget to flirt with your partner too and remember that he/she still has those qualities you fell for in the beginning that you may have begun to take for granted.
Number two: flirting helps build new relationships. If you’re not in a relationship, remember that flirting is to romance what training is to a sport. So, start exercising! If you are in a healthy relationship and have set boundaries when flirting, it will make you appreciate what you already have a tad more.
Number three: flirting is great for reducing stress and boosting dopamine. Within the first seconds of seeing someone, your brain cells create an instant reaction, and if you like what you’re seeing and feeling your body releases dopamine, which is a known stress reducer and is used in many stress-relieving supplements.
Bonus (ladies only): flirting can lead to better deals and less money spent. Ladies, we have to use what we were given. If your smile and charm can get you a better deal on that car, use it! If your smile and charm can help you get that raise, use it! Even former U.S. Secretary of State, Madeline Albright admitted to flirting her way through negotiations!
Sources: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/9436321/Flirting-is-powerful-negotiating-tool-academics-find.html ; http://www.everydayhealth.com/womens-health/1010/flirting-pays-off-new-study-finds.aspx ; http://www.flirt.com.au/health-benefits-of-flirting/ ; http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Flirt-your-way-to-health/articleshow/5934725.cms ; http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/10/121009111942.htm